This is a self made wisdom and I will be quoting myself with no authority what so ever, so with that disclaimer here is my nugget of wisdom for you all based on a quote posted by Bianca.
”One often has to make the decision to stop waiting to
be rescued and rescue oneself….but it is a hard often rock bottom hitting
journey, to get to that eye-opening epiphany. Once you make that realization,
disappointing as it may seem at first, all becomes possible and you will finally
be free!!” -REC